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Bibi Farber's avatar

Celia, what a beautiful tribute to Mom. I miss her everyday. You capture her essence here exactly. She was SO MUCH, she encompassed so much adventure and so much courage. Best we can do is honor this rich legacy. Thank you for writing these words.

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Frontera Lupita's avatar

My mom passed away midday on Mother’s Day in 2021. I had to see her outside of the room she was in at a skilled nursing facility, through the sliding glass door of the room she was in. She had been there for a couple of weeks, after a 5 day hospital stay. Because of the

Covid BS I couldn’t go in the building.

I knew she was dying at the hospital…I could tell. I sent my brothers and my two nieces (her granddaughters) to see her at the hospital, because we could go in there if we wore a mask. It was to really to be able for all of us to be with her in the final days of her life.

I went to visit her at 11AM on Mother’s Day, at the skilled nursing facility. I had to talk to her via my phone cause she was too weak to get out of bed and come to the window. I did most off the talking, sang her some songs, told her that it was ok to go find my Dad, (her husband of 30 years who died in 1982 at 57) and her Mom and Dad. I told her to go ‘whoop it up with Dorsey” (my Dad). I told her by name, every family member loved her, and sang her another song. Then I said I would talk to her tomorrow, said I loved her, and she whispered, “I love you too” back.

In less than an hour I got a call from the facility that she had passed away.

Now three years later I feel her around me frequently. We both loved all kinds of music, and I when I hear certain songs that remind me of her I know she fluttering about! Also I may see something that also reminds me of her and know that’s she’s around.

I celebrated the third anniversary of her death on Thursday. I went to Mission San Diego de Alcalá, and bought a 7 day votive candle to be put up at the altar and had a prayer novena said for her at the Mother’s Day Mass today. She had been the President and member of the Mission Choir at The Mission for many years. We could not hold a funeral Mass in the Church because the lovely Diocese of San Diego was not allowing masses or gatherings inside any churches, only outdoor services.

We had our own memorial service in July for her, at a Women’s Club with a pianist and a soloist, a Mexican food buffet lunch, and no masks were required!

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