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Excellent.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

A thoroughly enjoyable read - sadly this is the culture the cabel wants to destroy to further erode and then control society.

One of my favorite quotes: “When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.” Fulton J. Sheen

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Thanks. My mother used to watch Fulton Sheen when I was a kid. B&W tv w/ rabbit ears.

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Well, now I'm hungry. Someone make me a falafel. 😄

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Mar 4Liked by Celia Farber

Yes, dear, whatever you want. 😁

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What a beautiful piece! "She is the screen, you are the projector." Moishe Harizy's philosophy reminds me of Ninka Bernadette-Mauritson of Barefoot Autism Warriors, who describes how children reflect their mothers. Mother is mirror, child is reflection. Want to alter nervous or fight & flight behaviors (or unwanted symptoms) in a child? The trick, according to Ninka, is: the mother must first become the picture of calm and safety, day in and day out, over long periods of time. She also has some ideas about femininity and pitfalls of taking on masculine traits at the expense of the maternal ones. She acknowledges how triggering her ideas are. But she has success stories that are mind-blowing, making the ideas hard to ignore. It appears there may be ancestral man-woman and woman-child relationship needs, just like essential dietary minerals and vitamins! Technology not only fails to substitute, but makes any chasm larger and more difficult to overcome.

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what a stunning comment. I will go find this person…thank you dear Teresa.

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Some of her posts are really specific. I will look through my notes later today and share links to the ones I feel are extraordinary. The best way to understand her philosophy is to go to Case Studies and listen to some of the discussions with moms who are 'turning around' symptoms in their children by changing themselves - connecting to nature, grounding, being more loving, embracing 'woman-ness.'

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

The art of marriage, what it used to be.

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What a joy to read that story, lovely, thank you!

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Delightful Celia. When I read this I couldn’t help but think about another righteous and wise caring Jewish man - Dr Zev Zelenko who became an early hero during the dark days of the lockdown. Lately the Jews are getting lots of bad press. But it’s because some are rotten. But certainly not all of us though.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Ah. Celia. This is so good to read.

Partly because it's just a pleasure to read your writing, and these days a simple and beautiful pleasure is especially nourishing.

Also because the subject matter is so strikingly different from most anything else I read these days and I didn't even know how hungry I was / am for it!

And this: " ... he believes women are—wait for it—'by nature, born perfect'.” There I was, reading and laughing and enjoying your writing and this remarkable fellow ~ then tears erupted.

In this phreaking horrific era of enhanced erasure of women (this time by the pseudo-trans depopulation cult), the ever more numbingly and dismal portrayal of women in popular culture, the apparently acceptable language denoting females as vagina-havers and worse - even the sight / sound of these words struck a raw and tender nerve in me.

Regardless whether I agree with this perspective or not, the existence of this consideration is good medicine for me right now.

So as always, thank you.

(And as @Unskooled noted ... man oh man am I ready for some really good falafel! 😋

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Kavita, thank you, somebody laughing is my favorite thing to hear as feedback. "…the existence of this consideration." That's it! We're slowly rowing back to the lost land, (trying to) where we could hear other people, take something as a consideration, not convert everything screamingly to "self! self!" And yes "…ever more numbingly and dismal portrayal of women in popular culture…" Could that be part of the reason one has struggled so much with debilitated "self-esteem" …because women as a whole have entire CIA factions devoted to cutting us down? Then came the "erasure," as you say.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

In theory, this sounds marvellous. My ex husband was very supportive of my views, both in managerial positions with same company. He thought I was different to previous women he'd dated. Long story short, once I was pregnant, left work altogether, I realised my views were no longer considered and if I complained, was told not to bite the hand that feeds me. Women can resort to demanding too much, also, leading to too many demands on husbands. Not something I did.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Women are born perfect.

“In our obsession of original sin, we too often forget original innocence.” - Pope Innocent III from the movie, Brother Sun Sister Moon.

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This is bee-u-tee-FULL Celia!

Many've us could use a little help from Rabbi Moishe (I'd take it too had we not left NYSeized)... It is heartenin' ta see ya have a soft spot for this man who duz a "mitzvah" for folks, keepin' 'm married. It pains me when I hear folks sayin' that all chews wanna tear down famblies an' ruin the fambly structure in "AmeriKa." It's so untrue an' this delightful rabbi, cranky an' funny (the kind I like too!) is a good example, not an outlier. Most of America (now Amerika) hs not walked the upper west side on a Saturday an' seen all the famblies together enjoyin' the sunshine together, or seen them in Central Park or Washington Heights proudly just bein' famblies. Most have never seen this in Williamsburg neither--where it's a bit less scenic but just as heartfelt.

I wuz purdy sore ta see ya let non-historian James Perloff spout such nonsense 'bout "chews" -- tho' he mebbe spot on about the Scofield. So, if yer still pals with Rabbi Moishe here, by all means please consider askin' HIS view on the cockamamie rhetoric of Perloff (who claims he's a jew but didn't know 'til adulthood and knows zip about being jewish) an' who tells his interviewer that SOME jews are OK cuz they can "SLITHER OUT" of practices like drinking the blood of. non-chews! OMG kashrut law forbids even drinking animal blood...these well-meanin' soft spoken mister rogers types (like perloff) are sadly ignorant and many MANY don't know the difference. I fear you didn't either--I wish you had known better to see where JP went wrong... however well-meanin' he means ta be.

First, many of us are MORITIFIED at what's goin' down in Israel "in our name" but not with our consent (nor the consent of the Jews who are living in Israel) where BOTH chews an' non-jews alike (including in Gaza) are ALL being sacrificed ta the CABAL (which is not jewish--tho' yup, puppet crooks like NetAnYoohoo serve it well). The "Masters" wanna destroy not only Gaza but Israel too... an' all the chews in it. Tabla raza. (FieFieFie-zur wuz just the first weapon used against the Jewish people there--an' this OP too--with both the shadow gubbamint of Israel AND Hamas's leaders TOGETHER plottin' it from the start--but with real lives lost--is simply step two in the De-Pop agenda. Smart city comin' yer way.

Since the Rabbi seems ta be a pal will you consider possibly getting his view on the follerin' "mistakes" by Perloff to do some fair-play debunkin' an' address the follerin' 13 qvestions:

1. the myth that we'ze khazarians (we ain't--no genetic study sez so)

2. the myth that most chews are talmud chews cuz most chews are truly, honestly torah chews-- most ordinary chews from reformed to orthodox (not ultra mebbe) know "gorrnischt" 'bout talmud which is for the rabbis and scholars and only conveyed to the rest of us in sermons, lessons... (because)

3. only torah is law (an' it's way more than the 10 commandments--it's like 638 or somethin'---) an' that talmud is discussion--it covers law but isn't law--an' it's open to interpretation--and MIS-interpretation

4. the myth that goyim are cattle by any definition--goyim means they are like another "nation"--different b/c not jews but not to be scorned as some accuse--because per Jewish law ANY person, no matter what faith, can be blessed by God as long as they honor the 7 Noahide laws which are not (as some say) dark and evil--but are simply shortened versions of the 10 commandments (okay the anti-gay one is a mite wincy for some of us but all others are pretty humanitarian) ALSO the story of Jonah & the Whale (told on Purim) is all about treatin' non-jews kindly, respectfully, an' savin' their lives as they'd save ourn--every little chewish kid knows this tale... Jonah jumps inta the warter ta save his non-chewish shipmates knowin' the storm meant "for him" will hurt them otherwise... ("god" notices this ;-)

5. chews NEVER drink blood--not of an animal OR a human nor do they make matzohs out of blood -- kashrut laws an' blood libel need ta be fully debunked!

6. that we are not snakes and do not slither (OK that's too silly to bother the rabbi with but Perloff actually said we slither around jewish laws IF we wanna be decent--OY) But snakes, bein' Satan--wull, chews are chews an' NOT a Synagogue of Satanists

7. that jews do not hate Christians NOR are jews taught ever to spit on churches! (Perloff incredibly believes nutbar whackjob Brother Nathanael who spouts anti-Jewish hate an' gullible folks BELIEVE him... omg)

8. that the "Protocols" are pure baloney, Russian propaganda actually, revised replacin' "Freemasons" with "Jews" but all the same bunk!

9. that jews were not "permanently" kicked out of Israel for bad behavior an' abandoned by god forever and that chews (for that matter) were not exactly kicked out of every other country for bein' "corrupt" (* see note below)

10. that "chosen" means only chosen by God to keep the torah an' the word and share it (among Jews, not to proselytize)--this "accusation" has been used as bad publicity b/c most of us know chosen has to do with follerin' torah (yes, Moses wuz selected as valedictorian--chosen...)

11. the myth that chews have no connection to Israel (b/c founding fathers of Israel were secular)--but most non-jews don't know that on the fathers line all chews (even secular ones) have a unique line of genes different from that of their arab neighbors and yes, datin' back to Abraham--even Ashkenazis.. An' Israel wasn't founded as a "jewish state" (faith wise) it wuz founded as a safe haven for those who even long before WWII had no other places to go... or SO THEY TOLD THEM/us (important point)... Most jews (including reformed, humanistic, etc) DO have a deep connection to the land -- every prayer starts with "hear Oh Israel"--even those that went secular in adulthood, if they had any chewish education at all, they knew a connection with Israel ran deep...

12 Askenazis are not nazis

13. the myth that Israel had no Jews left there until Balfour--yes, the Brits pushed more in (for strategic reasons) but Israel was actually 10% Jewish (those who never left) EVEN before 1900

There, 13 "qvestions" for the Rabbi!

I have NO CLUE what his answers will be BUT I'm near-certain he'll not agree with what (I'm so sad ta say) was full our malarkey by the man who did not speak "pearls" of wisdom this time 'round (I DO have a 2015 lecture of his unrelated that wuz excellent--)

Thanks fer considerin' my crackpotty idear of "askin' a rabbi"--most folks won't go there, but since ya did once, mebbe you'll reconsider an' ask him again? OR have him refer ya to one who might...

Respectfully submitted (with hope)--an' of course grateful for this delightful interview!

*footnote fwiw debunking why chews had ta leave other countries, nation by nation--interestin' stuff!

https://tinyurl.com/mwj96bs4

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Your use of language is interesting, a trifle cutesy but not entirely off putting. I'm going to appropriate "b/c" in future.

I can agree w/ 1,12 and 13. Funny how that's the beginning and end of the list. Khazarian is Koestler's misguided notion that's been lately revived by the controlled right. Ashkenazis are not Nat Soc's. Nazi is a term of derision, popularized by Churchill. Israel always had some sabras hanging on. Good for them, but so what? Leaving a marker in your place doesn't entitle you to return to it, not w/o incurred enmity.

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don't matter wuther yer a zionist (by the old, simple definition understood by most "chews") 'er not the follerin' is true:

A. at least half if not more of the chews in Israel an' in the diaspora are no fans've NetAnYoohoo wuther they want Israel ta "return" to... who? or not... MANY if not most are morti-fied at whut's bein' done in "their" name an' invokin' the hate of the world. AND of course if they speak out they kin be arrested, fined, an' worse. (velly un-democratic... totalitarian is more like it)

B. A little history for those wanting to 'restore Palestine' to it's original owners, goin' back in hist'ry:

1. Before Israel, there was a British mandate, not a Palestinian state.

2. Before the British Mandate, there was the Ottoman Empire, not a Palestinian state.

3. Before the Ottoman Empire, there was the Islamic state of the Mamluks of Egypt, not a Palestinian state.

4. Before the Islamic state of the Mamluks of Egypt, there was the Ayubid Arab-Kurdish Empire, not a Palestinian state.

5. Before the Ayubid Empire, there was the Frankish and Christian Kingdom of Jerusalem, not a Palestinian state.

6. Before the Kingdom of Jerusalem, there was the Umayyad and Fatimid empires, not a Palestinian state.

7. Before the Umayyad and Fatimid empires, there was the Byzantine Empire, not a Palestinian state.

8. Before the Byzantine Empire, there were the Sassanids, not a Palestinian state.

9. Before the Sassanid Empire, there was the Byzantine Empire, not a Palestinian state.

10. Before the Byzantine Empire, there was the Roman Empire, not a Palestinian state.

11. Before the Roman Empire, there was the Hasmonean state, not a Palestinian state.

12. Before the Hasmonean state, there was the Seleucid, not a Palestinian state.

13. Before the Seleucid empire, there was the empire of Alexander the Great, not a Palestinian state.

14. Before the empire of Alexander the Great, there was the Persian empire, not a Palestinian state.

15. Before the Persian Empire, there was the Babylonian Empire, not a Palestinian state.

16. Before the Babylonian Empire, there were the Kingdoms of Israel and Judah, not a Palestinian state.

17. Before the Kingdoms of Israel and Judah, there was the Kingdom of Israel, not a Palestinian state.

18. Before the kingdom of Israel, there was the theocracy of the twelve tribes of Israel, not a Palestinian state.

19. Before the theocracy of the twelve tribes of Israel, there was an agglomeration of independent Canaanite city-kingdoms, not a Palestinian state.

C. thanks fer the "backup" on both Kwazy Koestler (who wuz also a spook) an' the term "Nazis" which is now bein' weaponized (ironically) against "chews"--

Many've us know good chews (MANY, yup non-sabras) were fooled inta thinkin' Israel wuz gen-u-inely gonna be their home "again" without the trauma, trials, an' tribulations. I blame 'em not. The whirled shouldn't either... an' yet they have lost near-all sympathy now...

That Balfour's deal wuz a dishonest mess--no argue-mint thar. Britain didn't really own Israel ta give it away --- but they git a free pass 'er a look-away. Heck, they're still involved up ta their necks--MI6, Mossad, CIA. Ordinary chews know NOTHING of this... an' those who do are silenced.

So what should happen now? Even if there wuz no war, I'll tell ya, nobody ELSE wants the chews--most countries have had enuf of My-Grunts. Frankly it's well beyond my paygrade ta say whut should happen next b/c globalist goons are callin' the shots--LITERALLY (an' not just chewish ones that have zero love for chews or anybuddy else--throw'em all under the bus). But callin' fer the destruction of all've Israel isn't exactly a great idea EVEN fer them that hate chews... b/c we're next. (Nobuddy's gotta believe me...)

Last but not least--I write in the vernacular--keeps the bots an' trolls away an' we unemployed "acteurs" (who didn't take the countermeasures) gotta have outlets... In the tradition of Lil' Abner (Al Capp), Joel Chandler Harris, an' many others who join me in crack-pottery, I proudly ply my jargon ;-)

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You are a charming crackpot, my dear. I like my-grunts. Chews is good too. The Daisy persona works for me.

Since there was no Israeli state until 1948, all that detail on stages of there not being a Palestinian state in olden times therefore .... what? I don't get the point of the history lesson.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

https://torahdownloads.org/s-45-rabbi-moshe-harizy.html

Rabbi Moshe Harizy is born in Tel Aviv in Israel. He served as a communications officer in the Israelie Army during the Lebanon war. He then headed Keren Chai Emes for 4 years,a non profit organization who give the opportunity to 60,000 children to plant trees in the mountains in Israel. In 1996, Rav Harizy create the "Yemenite Minyan"in Manhattan NY.

As a shiksa, reading this lovely article makes me cry because I could see why I could never, ever be chosen by someone i had fallen in love with many decades ago: I was not part of the 'community'. I think of him everyday and hope he is happy with his wife, many children and grandchildren.

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The Rabbi is a very wise man and the story was a joy to read with many a smile befalling my face along the was, kind regards.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Is his restaurant still open there?

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No, sadly. AliBaba closed down, I'm not entirely sure if it was "during Covid" but I expect so. I put Covid always in quotes since it was simulated.

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Mar 3·edited Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

A charming profile of the Rabbi. His teachings on courtship and matrimony are excellent but more than a tad idealistic. It's like as not I'll remain this old piece of meat until the end.

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I just kind of love the way Jews talk. I love the tradition of exaggeration tinged with brutal candor but it's humor/candor.

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Mar 3Liked by Celia Farber

Yes. Their humor is often incomparably brutal, candid and hilarious. I sometimes try to imitate but can never duplicate. I imagine it derives from historical pain and suffering, that has been withstood and outlived. I think American Black humor is analogous, The suffering withstood being the crucial common determinant.

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I must have lost my sense of humor/candor.

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“All real life is encounter” (Martin Buber) “Failure to love is almost like murder” (Boris Pasternak). The error which causes the most harm is failure to separate amicably when the time is right. Later it becomes impossible for many reasons. Except when merely a legal accommodation or a partnership for raising children, the marriage contract is one to exclude others, i.e. a refusal to love others.

Love cannot be commanded.

The problem is also that of couples dominating relationships throughout society such that friendship is throttled. Marriage and couples need to be temporary and marginal. The oath "Till death us do part" is itself immoral, as almost all oaths.

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Paul, this is really something. I never knew of that Pasternak quote! Where did you find that? Equally arresting is the Martin Buber quote. You are saying when love fails, people should part amicably. What I can say is that bitter crazy divorce maims children for life. Inside each of us is a broken piece that feels like shame that only (in my experience) prayer can touch. For most of my life I normalized crazy divorce, or divorce, period. Now I take it as serious as it is. It breaks souls.

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Celia, sorry, this has to be long.

I came across the Pasternak quote several months ago, together with this by him: “And remember: you must never, under any circumstances, despair. To hope and to act, these are our duties in misfortune.” I do not recall where I found it. I have never read Pasternak. The Buber quote was a headline some months ago in Transition News, which is a daily German-language “alternative” newsletter from Switzerland. So I translated the German. I do not know where it comes from either, altho, a lifetime ago, I did read Buber closely, mainly his “Ich und Du,” “I and Thou.”

My experience, convictions reinforced by reflection in the tranquillity of old age and retirement, is that untold harm was done by my parents staying together “for the sake of the children,” but also because they were of a class and generation which did not divorce. As I child I daydreamed of them divorcing, i.e. when I was not daydreaming about running away from home.

I am current cognisant to (giving advice on) two old marriages which are on the brink, children long departed. There are material restraints in one case. But both face another problem, and it is that society is largely made of couples, such that deep friendships for a new, replacement, life cannot be found easily.

Forty years ago I published “Against Couples,” which had some impact, and was last anthologised in translation, without my foreknowledge, by major publishers together with essays by world renowned authors. My argument was and remains that the ideology of marriage does not add up. It is impossible (statistically impossible) for everyone to have a real marriage in the sense of a lifelong blending of souls rather than a useful domestic arrangement. Without this ideology, which is historically recent, and in a changed society, the case for marriage falls apart since the connection between spouses becomes arbitrary, like the community formed by people travelling, say, on the trans-Siberian railway.

The ideology (and dream) of marriage needs replacing by a view of life as a series of encounters, some certainly of long duration, and with an accompanying ethic. Encounters need not rule each other out even in the same timeframe. What is important is that each encounter should provide mutual enrichment, which does not mean symmetry. Too often one or both are harmed by the break-up or abuse such that they end worse off than before the relationship began. We need a culture of taking leave of each other. Normally this is a slow departure, as we hear from or see friends less and less. The bitterness arises when one or both had imagined utter “fidelity” “Till death us do part.” Moreover, marriage provides justification and reinforcement of jealousy, not the noblest of sentiments. You cannot possess other people; in sexual intimacy you take possession of them, or else are taken possession of, but afterwards the possession is relinquished.

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