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mo's avatar

Beautiful story.

I think Barry Farber kept some of that innocence most if not all of his life. It's what made him the legendary talk show host he was. The usual obstructions and red flags that most people adopted with age back then were not an impediment to him. He was quick to develop rapport with the individual standing before him, whether on the street or in the studio, because he identified with and saw sameness in others first, instead of differences.

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kilquor2nd's avatar

Yet I hate Hitchcock as originator of snuff movies .

BF categorises standards of horror .

Wasn't BF funny ?

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kilquor2nd's avatar

got some mp3s ?

links to whole shows .

Should exist at that level .

There areNL broadcast playbacks of ''how to cook an egg'' phone in suggestion marathons at christmas from the first dutch ''goons'-(easily as funny as Peter Sellars)

In NL Johnny van Doorn ,one of the extraordinarily few my grandad actually parachuted for in pegasus brigade 82nd WW2( those infinitesimals he actually jumped for are lifelong mentors & friends )

He jumped for no Yogokarta Principle ,no Kinsey report ,no table 34 ,no vietnam vet posing as friendly (or needing to ) ,sure as hell he also did not jump for sweet fuck all (FA).

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mo's avatar

Are you asking whether I have mp3s to Barry Farber broadcasts of yore?

I've sampled a few snippets of those, not entire shows, from youtube. His conversations were invariably insightful and intelligent. Celia too has given us windows into this man so I blended the two sources into a profile of someone who had an intense curiosity about the world and people from all walks of life.

Now again is that conspicuous reference to things Dutch. You recall, recently you sent me a link to the Anglo-Dutch banking empire, thank you, after I'd asked about your notable frequent mention of things from the low land. Do you live there/are you Dutch?

Gotta ask because would an Anglo, especially Englishman misspell Sellers's name?

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kilquor2nd's avatar

What is objectionable is Hitchcock's cynical commercialisation of fear ,terror .

That is a button mechanism worthy of Fauci himself -

John Sandford has debunked such performance orientation hilariously - Therefore, the rule is: anxiety is augmented to dread and compliant performance to the degree of coldness and rigidity in the family behavioral pattern. To that degree, fear binds all life,". . .who through fear of death were subject to slavery all their lives" (Heb. 2:15). The death we fear is not

physical death. To the performance-oriented believer, physical death would mean release. Rather, we fear dying to that world of control we have falsely come to believe guarantees us belonging and love.

That fear of death prevents even the born anew from change—until love reaches frozen corners, and

death of self sets us free.

Performance orientation does not mean one who works hard, but one who works hard for the wrong

reasons. A free person may work harder, in the same works—impelled only by love.

https://www.schoolforculturalliteracy.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Performance_Orientation.pdf

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kilquor2nd's avatar

London spelling with an a before e . PS certainly changed it .

I wouldnt piss on the dutch if they were on fire .

Interviewing Hitchcock on basis of refusing a net for tightrope walkers .

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhRJ8JH5nH4

Barry Farber has less hours on media than Johnny van Doorn ?

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mo's avatar

Alright you Sellars dweller, you're doing an admiral job of citing a Dutchman, whose name I had to look up.

And you wouldn't piss on the Dutch if they were on fire? hahaha. How 'bout if they weren't on fire?

Barry versus Johnny? I have no idea and life is too short . . . . .

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kilquor2nd's avatar

Although he was christened Richard Henry, his parents called him Peter, after his elder brother, who was stillborn.

Surely not - PS in Strangelove has Fauci to perfection .

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mo's avatar

It's an odd notion that Fauci stood on Seller's shoulders. But then you said Strangelove, not Sellers, didn't you? I wonder who was Fauci when he wasn't in character? Most likely, still Fauci :- )

Really? Behind that placid "Goed Evening" was The Originator of snuff movies? There's that British (respectfully, not English to all you English(wo)men reading this) civility persona bleeding through. Wipe out entire nations while sipping tea. But then had Al worn a ski mask donning a chainsaw, Texas style, he might not have attained such heights.

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Florida Prophet's avatar

I must be stuck in the mindset of a five year old. It took this post to get me to put together, you’re the progeny of Barry.

The apple falls not far from the tree!

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Media Luna's avatar

I love the story. Perfect innocence remembered!

I wonder if we all have a story that portrays our innocence when we were children. I do. Not as poignant as this one.

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Dawn B's avatar

They (evil), start harming us from birth.

That story shows us racism is taught and perpetrated by the government to keep us divided.

Matthew 18 At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2 And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them 3 and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.

5 “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, 6 but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin,[a] it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.

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Brian's avatar

Ms. Farber, thank you for sharing this selection from your father's book. I immediately ordered a copy upon reading it. Next step - learn more about your father!

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kitten seeking answers's avatar

kids think & say the darnedest things, adults would be well served listening once and a while

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Florida Prophet's avatar

Memories of Art Linkletter suddenly appear!

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Frontera Lupita's avatar

As a Great Aunt to a couple of 5 year old grand nieces…every time I hang out with them for the day, they never cease to amaze, how their little minds are whizzing away!

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kilquor2nd's avatar

Needed that ,cheers DF !

His 7 self defeated virus points are from 37mins in - need them on a card ,like

navigators

topical memory system -to carry everywhere !

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Chris Pfohl's avatar

I love this and long to be five again, before the tares were sown.

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Ann's avatar

I love talk radio! Unfortunately I never got to hear your father! This is wonderful news! I loved Rush and listened to him religiously - even going out to my car on my lunch break. He was such a breath of fresh air and I still wonder about the circumstances surrounding his death. I know you are so proud of your dad! And the Apple does not fall far from the tree, Celia!! What a wonderful heritage! God bless !!

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alison's avatar

It was your stories about your father that hooked me into reading your articles and getting to know you. As a 5 yr. old, I'm sure I would have thought the same as your father did. It is a testament to how conditioned/brainwashed adults can alter the minds of children. You're a fabulous writer. Wonderful story.

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George Jacobs's avatar

That story– I can feel why it moves you every time you return to it. Cocktails with Molotov is one of my treasured books– So delightful to learn that you suggested the title change! Did Barry actually have a cocktail with Molotov? I wouldn't put it past him! Mo says it perfectly: "He was quick to develop rapport with the individual standing before him...because he saw the sameness in others first, instead of the differences.

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Shona Duncan's avatar

Your father was a writer! My father was a carpenter, but i never saw him write. He used to take me to his factory every weekend so my mother could sleep in.

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Brian's avatar
6dEdited

By the way, there happens to be a signed copy of your father's book on eBay with the following inscription . . .

"Inside here we meet Grandma Marcus, who knew it would be Ed and Judy before either Ed or Judy!"

Much love,

Barry Farber

July 27, 2012

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Dale Peterson's avatar

That is such a fabulous book! Every story is a work of art! I am so glad to have that book.

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